Evan and I were suppose to be heading up to New York this week to see our family. Due to his work schedule, he couldn’t leave to spend it in his home town. I have several doctor appointment this week so we can hopefully get pregnant, and or, do IVF in April. I urged Evan to go and see our family. I would stay behind and do all of these appointments. My thought was, why have both of us miss the trip, it’s me they need to poke and prod. With the urging of his mother, who I am grateful for, she told him he should stay home with me.
It was a kind sentiment but I still didn’t expect him to go to the appointments with me. A 2 hour ride in and out of Pensacola to get my blood drawn and get a vaginal ultrasound. I don’t even want to be there myself. If I could send Evan in my place I would.
So should I insist that he comes with me? Granted, he is home this week so nothing is stopping him from coming. Does that change the situation? Do I drag his happy ass with me? My answer…no.
Here is why. As much as I love my husband, I don’t feel the need for him to come to every fertility appointment with me. Maybe in your situation, it’s a prenatal appointment and yes, I’ve done those too alone. During these monitored appointments, I don’t actually see my doctor, I see his nurses and they take care of both blood and Ultrasound. It’s as dull as it seems and has become routine from last year. When we do see the doctor, he is always there if he can be. If the job get in the way, I have to be understanding. I am the mistress to the military and that’s just how it is. I need to understand that and I do and always have.
There was one time I wish Evan had been there. This is gross and personal but I need to explain for you to understand. Most of you should know, I had a miscarriage last year but it was a missed miscarriage. Basically, my body didn’t recognize that my baby had passed on. I had to take medication so this process could begin. After 2 doses and a week later, I start to notice this horrible smell and brown dark discharge(I’m sorry gross, I know). After a few days, I called my OB and she had me come in right away. Long story short, my OB had to manually pull out products of contention that had become lodged in my cervix. It was as painful and emotional as it sounds. It certainly would have been nice to have his shoulder to cry on and for him to comfort me.
So tell me, what do you think? Should husbands be at all your appointments? Was your husband at all your doctor appointments? Tell me in the comments below, I really want to know what you think.