Saturday was a gorgeous day here on the Gulf Coast, so my husband and I decided to go have some lunch on the beach. We go to this restaurant that is outdoors and is mostly bar food but the view is spectacular and the service is pretty good.
The place was packed so a hostess comes to our table and asked if another couple can sit with us. The 4 top table was pretty spaced out so of course we didn’t mind; it wasn’t a problem. Thinking back now, I wish I would have said it was a problem, but how was I to know what was about to happen?
The couple walks to our table and I immediately notice that she is pregnant, very pregnant, like about to pop any day now. They take the seat next to us and order their food. I didn’t see at first because the women was sitting right next to me but I begin to notice something in her hand. What the heck is she holding? As I look over again, she has a pack of cigarettes on the table and she’s puffing away on one.
What the hell?! I was completely shocked. I know women do this, but I’ve never actually seen it with my own two eyes before. Maybe I’m sensitive, maybe because I’m desperately trying to have a baby myself, or maybe perhaps I just have standards but I got very angry.
I’d never tell anyone what to do, you make your own choices for your life. If you want to kill yourself by smoking, by all means, go right ahead. I’ve smoked in the past myself, I know how it makes you feel and how addicting it can be. With that said, to subject your unborn child to that poison, lady, you are ungrateful low life trash.
Before anyone starts in on me on how dangerous it is to stop cold turkey when you are a heavy smoker, know that I understand this. I’m aware of the process of weening off cigarettes. You’ve now had 9 months to kick the habit, there is no excuse for you, you are just being a no caring, selfish bitch. Sorry there are no other words that can describe my feelings for you.
You need to wake up. You are about to become a mother. I hope you get lucky and for your child’s sake it doesn’t have any long term health problems because of your poor life choices. I sincerely hope you spend the rest of your life making it up to that child for the harm you subjected it to while s/he was still in your womb. I can see you are young but since your boyfriend is drinking a beer, you are old enough to know better. Please grow up, take good care of that baby, be a good mom.Please grow up, take good care of that baby, be a good mom. Click To Tweet
Now to anyone else reading my blog: It’s easy to dwell on how someone like her could be blessed with a child and not a woman who would do everything in her power to keep her child safe. So many women including myself who would never take the life inside her growing for granted and do something as stupid as smoke while pregnant.
I can’t understand it for the life of me but it’s not for me to understand. God has a plan for me, for all of us. We aren’t meant to understand His will and workings. Just know, life has good things in store for you and you should never give up hope. The” why her and not me” won’t get you very far because in the big picture of life, the grass always appears greener on the other side. Trust that your time will come, it will come for all of us.