It’s not something I normal think about or have nightmares over at all. I’m not scared to leave the house and go out in public. I don’t panic at the thought of seeing her; but when I see her, there is no doubt I lose my breath and my heart sinks to the ground. Yes, I’m talking about the women with the noticeably pregnant belly. In case you didn’t know…..I’m totally and completely jealous of you!
Everything in my being wants me to be elated for her and deep down, I am. She could be someone like me who had a very hard time getting pregnant, I’ll never know. I’m human, I can’t help feel the pangs of jealousy creep into my heart. I hate feeling this way. Why can’t I just go on about my day, smile, and not give it a second thought?
I was talking to a woman at the grocery store a few days ago. We were in the Spanish food section and she starts asking me about rice and beans. I’m not sure why she said it or maybe she was just so happy but she blurts out, “Oh I’m just having such pregnancy craving, I’m pregnant by the way”. Is the universe trying to stab me in the heart? Go figure, huh?
The Bible says that jealously is a sin. I know I’m not suppose to feel this way about anyone or anything but what can you do? How do you cope? Here are some ways I try to get past my jealous feelings.I know I'm not suppose to feel this way about anyone or anything but what can you do? Click To Tweet
Realize You Are Jealous
As simply and stupid as this sounds, it’s healthy to know where your ill feelings are coming from. Once you know then you can start to address them. I know many people just get mad and upset and don’t think they are jealous but sadly, they are.
Support From Good Friends and Family
I find it extremely helpful to talk to a friend about my feelings. Even writing this post I feel better about getting it off my chest (you guys are my therapy if you didn’t know 😉 ). If you feel overwhelmed by your jealous feeling talk to someone you trust or if you have a support group on Facebook just post about it. I love Military Wives Infertility Support Group.
I’ve taken much comfort in finding other blogs and blogger who share my struggle, here’s a great related post from Seeing Sunshine-When Pregnancy Announcements Hurt
Think Positive and Let it Go
I know, easily said right? There are times I can just think it will be my turn soon and let it go right away. Other times when I’m having a bad day or especially the first day of my period, it takes me significantly longer to do that. No matter your pattern or how long it takes, make sure you let go of those bad feeling. It doesn’t have to be forever because let’s be honest, they will creep in again, it’s inevitable, but if you are able to release the hurt and pain every time, you can begin to heal and have a more positive attitude, we need that more than ever in our lives.
How do you cope with pregnancy jealousy?
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