For almost 10 years I had to deal with all the ups and downs that came with my infertility journey. I’ve had periods of depression and many days I wouldn’t leave my house because I wasn’t dealing with the stress very well. It quickly became clear to me that I needed to find ways to constructively pass the time. I had to discover things that made me feel good, find ways to de-stress and do things that fed my soul.
It’s important for you to find ways to cope and deal with the stress that comes with infertility. I’ve picked 5 activities that helped me out and gave me life during that dark period. My hope is that they will help you, too.
Blogging and journaling was my #1 saving grace all those years. Writing down my feelings helped me cope in ways talking to a friend simply couldn’t do. I discovered Journaling Through Infertility by Christine Bergsma after my wait was over and I so wish I would have found it sooner. This journal is more like a guide and has chapters about finances, trigger points, your spouse, and even your friends. It asks you the hard questions and even has space for you to draw and be creative. The beautiful art and inspirational sayings will bring a smile to your face and your heart. I know you will find a new perspective on your journey just from writing down your feelings.
Go For a Walk/Exercise
Sometimes all you need to do is go for a walk to improve your mood and perspective on something. Hey girl, I know there are days where you don’t even want to get out of bed but I promise you, just taking a few steps out your door will do you a world of good. Do whatever it takes but get moving! You’ll be surprised how changing what you’re looking at can change how you look at life.
Start or Pick Up a New Hobby
I picked up Aerial silks and slings after my second loss. I became addicted and it was my favorite day of the week. Soon, I was going 2 to 3 times a week. It gave me a combination of fun, exercise, and relationships formed with the other students that I didn’t know I needed. Each week it left me feeling good about myself and kept me coming back for more. At the same time, it took my mind off my struggles and made me feel good physically, too. Now is the time to pick something you love back up or start something new!
I don’t know about you, but almost nothing makes me feel better than a manicure or getting my hair done. Even just painting your toes is a way of showing yourself love and care. In turn, you will feel good about yourself. So wash your face and put that face mask on, girl. Get yourself a massage. Spend a little me-time pampering you. I promise you won’t regret it!
They always say giving is much better than receiving, so why not give your time to a great cause? Lots of great places are looking for people just like you. There are animal shelters, homeless shelters, or food pantries that are desperate for the extra hands. I highly recommend places like the Ronald Mcdonald House, who help families dealing with medical issues. All these places (and more!) need your help and you can sure use the good feeling you will get from making a difference. If nothing else, a distraction that helps someone else is a win-win.
Look, I understand more than anyone what you are going through right now. Don’t lay in bed and binge watch Netflix to deal with the stress and sadness you are going through. You still have a beautiful and full life to live, so get out there and live it, my friend.
What is something you do to de-stress?